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FIRST CLASS VS. COACH AND OTHER TRAVEL THINGS

Last week I was in Philadelphia for a training course, at the end of which, I had to take (and pass) an exam. I won’t know for three weeks whether or not I achieved a passing grade, but I am grateful for the training.  It’s always a good opportunity to take training.

On the way to IAH in Houston, I was informed via my handy TripIt app that my flight to Atlanta was late. Late enough, it was certain that I would miss the connecting flight to Philadelphia. 

I was flying Delta Airlines, which I had never flown before. Typically, my company flies United unless, as it happened in this instance, it would be a significant savings to fly another airline. The $500 savings on this round-trip ticket could not be ignored, and Philadelphia isn’t somewhere we fly often. 

I like United, in fact, I’ve flown most of my life with them (Continental).  All I’d ever heard about Delta was the phrase, (Doesn’t Even Leave The Airport). Still, when I got the alert my flight was delayed, I didn’t stress or get upset. After all, I was flying on a day off to get somewhere for work.  I had already crossed over the attitude adjustment for flying on unpaid time.  I was very relaxed and decided to see what happened with Delta and how they would handle this situation. 

The first thing I noticed about Delta was the lack of lines.  Houston is United’s hub, and especially on the weekends, the lines are always long. Delta’s were short and moving. When I got to the counter, a young lady named Alex looked at my reservation and told me that I was going to miss my connecting flight, but not to worry, she’d get me to Philadelphia one way or another. 

All flights were full or nearly full. Alex’s fingers flew across the keyboard, and the smile and look of determination never left her face. Direct flights, other airlines, she looked at everything, all the time assuring me I would get to Philadelphia. She found the LAST seat to Philadelphia from Atlanta that would leave two hours after I’d arrive, in plenty of time.  She tried not to smile too wide when she informed me she’d have to upgrade me, no charge, to FIRST CLASS.

I blinked at her. First Class? I’d never been fortunate or financially able enough to go to first class anything. I tried not to squeal with delight but Alex told me I was among friends and it was okay to be excited. I nearly walked on air to security and on through terminal A (which I’d never flown from before) and found my gate to my flight to Atlanta. 

Delta has something I’ve not seen too much of in the United terminals – many places to charge electronics.  I also didn’t have to walk through Terminal C to get to Terminal E which takes a long, long time. 

I sat in the waiting area, listening to an older couple banter. Rather, the woman talked non-stop about everything, the man, however, nodded occasionally.  I named her Queen Madge of the Obvious.  His name, obviously, was Henry.  Apparently God put her on this earth to tell Henry everything.

“Look, Henry,” she’d say matter-of-fact, “there’s the lady walking to the counter.”

I checked. Henry was able to see.  He was reading the newspaper. The Wall Street Journal. 

“Henry, she’s about to make an announcement.”

Henry nodded. I could tell he was basically ignoring her but paying just enough attention to nod when he had to and respond if needed.

This banter continued until we were called to queue groups. Madge made sure Henry knew they were in group 3.  I was in group 2. I was hoping that meant we would be seated apart from each other.  

Alas, no, Queen Madge and Poor Henry were seated behind me and I received a play by play of everything during takeoff and landing when I pulled out my headphones because I knew I needed to listen to the pilot.

Madge needed to inform Henry of the men who were waving flashlights and helping us park, unloading luggage, and marveling at how the luggage for their flight was going to be there in just forty short minutes when their next plane took off.

When I exited the plane, I felt a moment of awe as I had to figure out what to do and where to go without Queen Madge! 

I made it to my next flight and when they called first class passengers, I walked non-chalantly to the front of the line. The flight attendant was apologizing that there would not be drink service before we took off because they were running late. Since I had no idea there was drink service before takeoff I was not disappointed.

I sat next to a tall, black youngster in his 20’s whose pants barely came up to the top of his underwear. He was a sweetie, though.  He offered me some of his Butterfinger bites and told me his name was Uptown. Later, as he sung with his headphones on, I could tell he was an aspiring singer. A good one. 

As passengers filed in, Uptown’s eyes grew large as soup plates.  He tapped me on the shoulder and asked me if the short, stocky man who was passing me was Warrick Dunn (former NFL running back for Atlanta Falcons & Tampa Bay Bucs).  I’ll be honest, without the helmet on, I wasn’t sure, but Uptown seized the day and asked the man if he was indeed Warrick Dunn.  He was. He shook our hands and sat down behind us.  Uptown, who up to this point had been taking 40-50 selfies since he also got the free pass to First Class, nearly went crazy.  I took a picture of him going crazy over Warrick Dunn with his phone to record the moment.

After I took my own selfie of myself in First Class, I noticed the cup holders that already held small bottles of water.  

First Class has bigger seats, and cup holders.  First Class has it’s own bathroom, and it’s own flight attendant.  Delta’s First Class flight attendants wear short, retro red dresses. Our flight attendant was nice and after apologizing (again) for no drink service (of the adult beverage nature) before take off, we were on our way.

In First Class, adult beverages are free, so I had to indulge.  I had a glass of white wine, while Uptown had a coke. Then, the flight attendant brought snacks even after I’d eaten some Butterfinger Bites.  There is a world of difference between First Class snacks and Coach snacks.  Yes, in First Class if you want pretzels or peanuts, you can have them.  Both, if you want.  The similarities with Coach end there.  In First Class you can also have cookies, chips, fruit, goldfish and a basket full of other things – and as much as you want as many times as you want.

First Class rocks.

After nearly undivided attention from the flight attendant for a couple hours, I was not ready for the plane to land. The last part of my First Class experience was getting to deplane FIRST. Before Warrick Dunn.  

Someday, I hope to get the First Class experience again!  Thank you, Delta, and thank you, Alex.

My experience with Delta was a positive one. My next work trip will be soon.  I’m looking at you, United.

 

 

 

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MAUI AND THE ART OF VACATION

I’ve been back from Maui a couple of weeks now. The jet lag I had was the worst I’ve experienced. As I’m about to embark on a year of moderate travel, I hope the worst has passed.

Hawaii was worth every penny.  I arrived close to midnight my time, in the middle of torrential rain and heavy tradewinds. Every local I came across that night told me that the amount of rain was unusual, not only for this time of year, but it was the most they’d seen at the same time years.

I managed to get to the condo, which is north of Whaler’s Village, the resort area. I stayed up as long as I could, but at 4 AM I was wide awake and so was the BFF.  My first view of Maui:

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Then, the magic started happening. The sun came up. The rain stopped. Maui revealed itself to us in a new way every day.  

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The first thing I noticed about Maui, besides the scenery, was that, if you are a fast-paced, go-go-go person like me, everything on the island whispers, “slow down,” and then the island makes you slow down.  Not only are most speed limits between a maddening 35-45 mph, people walk slower, talk slower, serve slower, and respond slower than they do on the mainland.  This is how the Hawaiian culture is.  Either you accept that and let yourself relax, or you are in for a maddening, frustrating experience.

I let myself relax, almost too much.  We did get out and see something new every day. Most evenings, however, we were parked on the lanai (that’s balcony for you landlubbers) ready to take in the breathtaking sunsets.  Each sunset was different and spectacular in its own way.

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Of course, there were a few rainbows to gawk at as well: 

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One of our favorite hangout spots was called Aloha Mixed Plate, a family-owned restaurant (they also own the oldest luau on the island). The prices are reasonable all day, the staff is warm and friendly, and the view is beautiful.  We ate there at least once a day, usually for breakfast before we headed out to explore all day. 

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We also drove the Road to Hana, a highlight of my trip for certain. With views of waterfalls, rainbow eucalyptus trees, bamboo, and other random visual delights, it’s worth the 52-mile road with 610 hairpin turns and 59 bridges, most of them one lane. When we arrived at the end, we found a little Thai restaurant called Nutcharree’s and I daresay it was the best pad Thai I ever had!

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Best of all, I got to spend over a week with my BFF from college, also named Sharon, hence the “Ditto” photo.  We always have such a great time together. I cannot wait to see where we will go next time!

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FEELING WHAT I FEEL

I have been sorting myself out for 45 years. I have found that I have two sides to me that are in constant conflict with each other. Given that my two favorite colors are blue and orange, it shouldn’t be a surprise I view those two sides as fire and water.

I am by no means volatile, but I have my moments as a seething cauldron of anger. I hold that anger in so I don’t allow the lava to burst forth, and usually this anger seeps out in hot, angry tears.  I let out the rest later, in private.

I hate those episodes, especially if the person who threw gas in the cauldron is male. Most men view those tears as a manipulative tool, when in fact, the tears represent all the words I wish I could say but know if I do, more trouble would arise. In fact, I see my tears as sparing the person across from me from a barrage of words, likely a barrage of hurtful, anger-fueled words.  Having been on the receiving end of such barrages, I hold it in, and the tears come out instead.  You’re welcome.

This week, during one of those moments, I was able to reel it all in, sit down and figure out what the real issue was. The two words I took out of the flames were humiliation and respect. I do realize this is about me and my reactions and how another person can make me feel. I take full responsibility for my reaction and my feelings.

My friend David Hayward (www.nakedpastor.com) brought the Feeling Wheel below to my attention.  I have been “unpacking” feelings for years, knowing that behind anger, there is always a secondary emotion (go therapy!). I found this chart helpful. I hope you will, too.

One thing I have taken from this week is I’m not ashamed of my feelings. They are real (though not always right). It’s what I do with them that counts. I am still working that out, but the valve I have in place, though it needs improvement, is working okay for now.

A friend asked me if triggers ever go away. Sad to say, I don’t believe so, but the trigger is no longer attached to a missile launcher, just a BB gun. I’m hoping one day maybe that trigger will be on a rubberband flipper (like I used to make with my brothers).  I have no notions or hopes that most of my triggers will ever disappear, but it is up to me whether that fact is problematic or not.

As always, I am at peace with myself, and that’s what matters to me.

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STORIES TO THE STORYTELLER

Usually people will say to the daughter she will turn into her mother, and for the son, the father. I do find this to be true in many cases. My little brother is not only the spitting image of my dad, I really think he’s a clone.  

Instead of turning into my mother, though I know I have many of her traits – like creativity, sewing, organization and a love for science – I actually find myself with many dad traits, but namely, his gift of gab.  My mom could work a room, for sure. She was just careful who she spent time talking with and careful with her information. My dad, on the other hand, will talk to ANYONE and he will talk about ANYTHING.

Not long ago, after talking to a complete stranger about about gluten free cookies, another about my breast cancer diagnosis, and yet another about seasoning sweet potato fries – all during the same grocery store run – I got into the car and realized, in this way, I am just like my dad.

Years ago my parents visited during the rodeo and I took them with me to a Winona concert. My tickets were across the Astrodome from them, and I watched them through my binoculars. My mother sat with her arms folded, taking in the sights, while my dad talked to everyone around him.  He later reported that he was certain the lady that sat behind him told him she was a hooker from New Orleans. He had a great time.  Another time, my flight was late to Ft. Wayne and my mother said my dad talked to everyone in the waiting area, telling them about me, the daughter from Houston, and making friends. It actually didn’t surprise me that when I arrived, my dad was saying goodbye to his new friends.

Back in 2007, I began making an effort to talk to at least 10 strangers during events I attended.  During one minor league baseball game in Sacramento, I had a great conversation with the stadium’s organ player.  On the same trip, my best friend and I had an enlightening conversation in Emerald Bay in Lake Tahoe with a scientist who told me everything I would ever need to know about photosynthesis and his daughter, the wine taster.  

I have met countless people since, all of whom I know random facts about because I struck up conversations with them. Most people are receptive to the random question or smile.  If I encounter someone having a bad day, I try to lift their spirits a bit. I’d rather talk to strangers than cloak myself in silence because I don’t necessarily know them.  I actually find it fun to meet new people.

Mostly, as a storyteller, I enjoy hearing other people’s stories.  Not a bad way to be like the old man.

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SUPER BOWL SUNDAY (OMAHA!)

ImageIn case you haven’t figured it out by now, I am a Peyton Manning fan. I haven’t cheered for the Broncos since Elway won the second of his back-to-back Super Bowls and rode off into the sunset. Today, however, since my favorite quarterback of all time is at the helm of the Broncos and is leading them to Super Bowl victory, I am wearing the pictured Manning jersey. 

Yes, it has sequins on it (I have a JJ Watt one just like it, also with sequins). 

Whether or not the 5-time MVP pulls a Super Bowl victory out of his OMAHA bag of tricks, he will always be my favorite quarterback to watch. In my opinion, he is the best of ALL TIME. I will enjoy this game and I will be honest, I would love for the Broncos to win!

 

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GOAL SETTING, KEEPING IT SIMPLE

RESOLUTION: a firm decision to do or not to do something. – random online dictionary

INSANITY: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. – Albert Einstein

This year has been full of challenges, difficulties, and successes.  Two back-to-back surgeries and learning an entirely new job this year has left my well pretty dry right now, but I’m doing all right. The surgeries were worth it. 55 pounds lost, no helter-skelter roller coaster of emotions and the new duties at work have made today much better than this day last year.

I will go on record saying that, while this was a tough year, it was a good year. I do not do resolutions anymore, but I do have four goals for 2014. All hopefully achievable, all very necessary.

GOAL #1:  NO SURGERIES! This, I hope, is completely achievable. I enter 2014 in the best health I’ve been in for the last 20 years. While epidurals are great, morphine is awesome, and finding out who really has your back when you are medicated and laid out flat on it is educational, I’d rather not have any major medical problems to deal with in the coming year.

GOAL #2: TAKE CAMERA EVERYWHERE I do mean everywhere, except maybe the bathroom. People act a little funny when you walk into a bathroom with a DSLR around your neck. They do not, however, act weird when you walk into a bathroom with an iPhone. I will keep this in mind.

The goal here is to just take as many pictures as I can. Between the surgeries, getting healthy, work, and having my camera stolen, I didn’t take hardly any photos (in comparison to other years) in 2013. Any I did in the first half of last year are still locked away on my backup hard drive. I hope to launch my portfolio on 500x soon and I need to beef it up a bit. So if you see me walk into a bathroom with my camera tell me I need a break.

GOAL #3: HIT MY GOAL WEIGHT I had RNY gastric bypass surgery on March 25. In 9 months, I lost a whopping 55 pounds. After my first surgery this year, my weight went up to 251, the highest it’s ever been. On the day of my bypass surgery, I weighed 238 pounds. That’s the weight I measure by. My goal weight is 140-145. That’s what I weighed in high school. I will see what weight my body settles into. Meanwhile, I will exercise and eat right and do my part. The second half to the goal is always more difficult than the first. This is when I need resolve most.

GOAL #4: MORE “ME” TIME Because of all my surgeries, health issues, and work, I did not have a lot of “me” time.  In 2014, I am going on vacation and taking more short trips (with the camera, of course) and working on photography (which keeps me sane). I hope to be writing more, too. This all takes time with a recharged me. I’m an introvert, so don’t take it personally when I disappear to recharge. I will be a better me if I do.

That’s it. Anything I accomplish outside of these four goals is just gravy.  I find I accomplish more when I keep it simple and these goals seem pretty simple to me. 

Happy New Year! May your goals bring you the accomplishments you desire. 

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OUT OF CONTROL

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I have many things in my life that are “out of control.” Ten years ago, that fact would have terrified me and let me straight into a depressive spin. Now, I find that fact so liberating I almost want to bake a vegan cake to celebrate.

WEIGHT LOSS: I am down 54 pounds as of this morning.  I have absolutely no control over my weight’s descent right now. I can speed it up a bit with cardio, but in reality, right now, the weight comes off of its own free will, or the weight plateaus of its own free will. I can only do my part – exercise and eat right – and leave the rest up to the tool the surgery gave me.

I am still adjusting to the byproducts of weight loss. Buying new clothes (it’s so expensive!) and continually changing the way I eat. Now that I’m gluten and dairy intolerant, I have to cook a lot more than I used to, but I’m loving it. 

The best byproduct of the weight loss is, however, the confidence. I thought I was confident before, now I feel unstoppable. That notion is actually very humbling.  I am blessed beyond measure right now. 

OTHER HEALTH ISSUES: I am experiencing some very real, very troubling pain in my joints, especially my knees, hips and back. The current diagnosis is that the pain is due to a hormonal imbalance that, unfortunately, cannot be balanced right now. I am on an estrogen blocker (Tamoxifen) and I’ve lost a lot of fat cells (that store estrogen) so it’s all out of balance. I can’t take estrogen (my cancer was estrogen positive), so I’m stuck. My doctor said as long as movement alleviated the pain, it was hormonal and not rheumatoid arthritis and not to worry.  Just move. Easier said than done some days.

PHOTOGRAPHY: My plans to launch my own photography site, do shoots, and sell prints came to a screeching halt by cancer interruptus. The last two years I’ve had to pour so much time into getting healthy again that this project had to take a back burner and there wasn’t much I could do about it. I had to let go of my plans, but now I’m working on my site again and am hopeful about 2014.

I have many other out of control things I’m juggling right now – work, hobbies, life. I just need to remember I really don’t have control over any of it and I’ll be fine.

I remember when I was paralyzed by the illusion of control. One thing would go “out of control,” and the anxiety level would climb so high I’d be ill from it. Then one day, I realized control is an illusion. Nobody really is in control of random happenings, the only thing I control is how I react to all the random.

Yes, I still get stressed, but I am happy with where I am right now, even though so many things are up in the air. I can relax because even though nothing is under control, I’m still ok.  

Let go of the illusion of control. Relax. Nothing is under control… and that’s an amazing feeling.

 

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PEYTON MANNING RETURNS TO INDIANAPOLIS

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…as a Denver Bronco.

I have been a fan of Peyton’s since he lit up Rockytop at the University of Tennessee. He has charisma, star-power, and humility, and the best football brain I’ve ever seen and the arm to back it up. 

When Jim Irsay gave Peyton his walking papers a couple years ago, I was heartbroken. I was a Colts fan since they came to Indianapolis, but even more so a Peyton Manning fan. I couldn’t imagine Peyton in another uniform, let alone doing so well in another uniform. 

I am thrilled, however, to see Peyton doing so well this year, in fact, he’s having one of his best seasons. No slight to Andrew Luck (who is filling Peyton’s considerable shoes better than anyone thought), but I would have loved to have seen Peyton Manning retire in Colts’ blue. 

I’m hoping that within the next three years, Peyton wins another Super Bowl and can hold that trophy high and dedicate it to John Elway while telling Mr. Irsay to kiss his Bronco butt. No, I’m not bitter.  

Regardless of the outcome, I will wear the orange #18 with pride!