Because I’m Worth It

One year someone said they pitied me for being alone on my birthday and not having anyone to buy me flowers or jewelry or whatever they thought a birthday gift should be. Let me set the record straight. Again. I’m never truly alone. I’ve had dozens of well wishes and phone calls. I was with…

Roar Begins

My Bestie got me this bracelet for my upcoming birthday. The inscription is a wonderfully timed reminder to roar!

Bayberry Candles

Happy New Year! Bayberry candles burned to the socket, bring health to the home and wealth to the pocket!

One Word 365 “Roar!”

In the past, for the One Word 365 Challenge I’ve chosen words like, “Imagine,” “See,” “Adventure,” and “Hope.” One of my favorites that still resonates is, “Fearless.” As I’m completing my fiftieth birthday year, it is now almost 2020. I set out to have certain goals met by now, some I’ve just squeezed in at…

YES, MAMMOGRAMS HURT, BUT…

Get your mammogram! I get asked often, “does it hurt?” Yes… BUT It does not hurt as much as 2nd degree radiation burns during treatment. It does not hurt as much as the old school c-section style hysterectomy I had to get because I had to take meds to keep the cancer from returning that…

Blackkklansman

I’ve watched Blackkklansman several times now. Parts of it make me sick, particularly the parts where “Christians” believe white is right and the only color. Harry Belafonte’s part where he recounts several atrocities is particularly strong. One hopes we’ve made progress. Right? Then a church going white man drives into a crowd to kill people…

VALENTINE’S DAY BLUES?

I know a lot of people can be depressed on Valentine’s Day if they don’t belong to a pair. No candy, no flowers, no dates, etc. I learned a long time ago – I buy myself flowers. I purchase my own jewelry. I take myself out on “dates.” I eat the chocolates my coworkers’ other…

IMAGINE THAT

Sitting here on New Year’s Eve again, watching football, burning my bayberry candle (“Bayberry candles burned to the socket, bring health to the home and wealth to the pocket!”) I am once again pondering my One Word for the new year. For 2018, it was, “Adventure.” I did not do as well chronicling my adventures this…

THANKSGIVING BUZZ

I’ve wanted to do this for a long time. Whenever I’ve asked a hairdresser to do it, they’ve balked. Their definition of femininity didn’t allow it. Know that I LOVE IT.  If you don’t, that’s ok. I didn’t do it for you. It’s the most freeing thing I’ve done with my “look” since I cut…

THE TRAUMA OF ME TOO

Regardless of your political affiliation or personal feelings about sexual assault victims or trauma, please consider all the people whose abuse or trauma still hides in the shadows, in their traumatized hearts and minds. You may not know you are standing next to a sexual assault victim, that you’ve known this person for decades and…